Anger, bitterness and resentment only hurts one person – YOU, not the person you’re resenting. That’s because you’re the one feeling it all, and carrying it all – not them. Lashing out at them doesn’t help either. Believe me. It may make you feel a little better, but it may not be the wisest thing to do. It could all eat away at you, and could affect other areas of your life. As a Christian, this is an area we need to be careful about. Do you have anger, bitterness, resentment, negative thoughts and irritability in your heart towards someone? A family member, work colleague, spouse, friend or neighbor? Think about it, this is very important. You know why? Because these feelings come from sins in your heart, like: un-forgiveness, self-control issues, pride, anger, jealousy, and anger among others. And they are all traits of the devil. It’s all in the Bible, I’m not making it up.
No God, no peace; know God, know peace.
Let me tell you what happened today. As I was just about to write this blog post, I had just been talking to God, was happy and so at peace. Shortly after that, I received a text message with information about someone I care about. I didn’t like what I read. The information, true or not, made me feel anger towards this person I care about. Imagine, I’d just been in prayer, but I didn’t even take the time to take it to the Lord and ask, “Lord, what should I do about this?”. Instead, I let that anger sit in my heart for a bit, got my phone and sent a long message to this person I care about, putting my feelings out there on how I felt about what I had just heard. How did that turn out? Well, let me just say, I made a poor choice but I’ve learnt from it.
Even though I felt a little better for airing out my feelings, or even though one would think it was okay to do so given the circumstances, it still wasn’t a good choice. I say that because I felt convicted by the Holy Spirit afterwards. James 1:19 tells us to be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. I was quite the opposite. I jumped right into anger and was not slow to speak, at all. Matthew 7:1 also tells us not to judge or we too shall be judged. I was judgmental in that situation. Who am I to judge another? Who are we to judge others? We all have our own struggles and sins, so why judge others as if we do not have a speck in our own eye? I ended up apologizing to this person I care about. I also prayed. What I felt after prayer and acknowledging my sin to God, was love and hope about that situation I’d heard about. I also asked God to forgive me for my sins, and His peace came over me again. All I can do is pray about what I heard and give it to God. It’s just interesting how all this happened as I was just about to write a blog post on seeking peace. I have surely learnt yet another lesson today. Thank you Lord.
So, are you bitter towards anyone? Does every little thing they do piss you off? I’ll say this: when you find yourself in a situation that brings about these emotions and feelings, stop for a moment and think before you act. It can be hard, but just hold that mouth and check those feelings. Ask God to guide you. He’s given us the Holy Spirit who will guide us in all truth and remind us of God’s word in all situations (John 14:26). Ask yourself what God’s word says about that, and what you should do. Also, dig deep within and figure out where these emotions are coming from? Have you forgiven them? Do you lack self-control over your emotions? Are you proud? Jealous? Sometimes we may have one or all of these things and not be aware. That’s why we need Jesus. He shows us all our faults and works on them, so we can become more like Him.
Remember: if you fail to forgive others, your Father in Heaven will not forgive you of your sins (Matthew 6:15). Also, don’t go to bed angry because then you’ll be giving the devil a foothold in your situation (Ephesians 4:26).
To find peace and to have peace, we have to seek it and pursue it (Psalms 34:14). Peace is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. It’s from God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
Man’s anger doesn’t bring about the righteous life that God desires.
God Loves YOU!